Do you often feel like you do so much for your family but no seems to value or appreciate your efforts?

In this episode we outline and discuss what to do in this situation and learn to request for and appreciate the appreciation!

Here's what we discussed: 

Part 1: dealing with yourself

1. Validate the need for appreciation
2. Show yourself compassion for feeling this longing.
3. Notice when you do feel cared for
   1. Name the feeling
   2. Stay with the feeling
   3. Growing resource to draw upon.
4. Appreciate yourself. Allow yourself to feel good when you do something for others. Pat yourself on the back. Say “that’s like me”.

Part 2: Deal with overfunctioning

1. Why are you doing what you are doing? Do you feel forced? “I should” “I have to”. These signs that you feel compelled – breeding ground for resentment.
2. Notice choice. And get in touch with the value and meaning of doing things for your family.
   1. Love for family
   2. Own values about cleanliness for example
   3. Pleasing God

Part 3: Dealing with others

1. Lead by example. Role model appreciation. Value yourself and value others
2. Figure out if it is not valuing or not expressing
3. Speak up: xyz. Not blaming but sharing your experience and need
4. Request change
5. Appreciate their appreciation – give positive feedback. It felt really good.
6. Learn to take compliments gracefully
7. Grow your circle – build culture of appreciation with friends and colleagues

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Many of us have been struggling with too much togetherness in our families during the lockdown. The stress of changes around us, the anxiety of the unknown and the fact that everyone is struggling are making it more challenging than ever to get along. In this episode we discuss some of the ways we can manage. 

In this short presentation, we outline three simple and practical ways to manage family relationships during the lockdown

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We all know the saying “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in the baby carriage.” But what happens after that? The transition from “married” to “married with children” can be tough. Suddenly your time is not your own, you are tired, sleep deprived and pulled in so many directions. Although having children is a big blessing, it is also a huge responsibility and the challenges that come with parenthood can put a strain on the strongest of relationships. In this session, we will explore ways to navigate the challenges and nurture your marriage while parenting.

In this episode we discuss Self-Compassion,

What it is and why it matters. We also discuss the common misconceptions about self compassion, we explore the difference between guiding with compassion and guiding with criticism. We end the session with some simple but powerful self-compassion excercises.

A recording of a live session at a milad for a wedding. Please excuse the sounds of the toddler who really wanted to be heard :)

In this session we cover a necessary ingredient for a Muslim home - that of sukun or tranquility.

What is tranquility, what are reasons why it is so important, and how do we create sukun within ourselves and in our homes.

Here is a link to the blog posts mentioned in the audio

The Trouble Tree:

https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/do-you-have-a-trouble-tree

The 36 questions that lead to love

https://www.marziahassan.org/blog/The%2036%20Questions%20that%20lead%20to%20love

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What is the new reality for parents and how does this impact family wellbeing and happiness?

Parents today are trying harder than ever to be good parents and create a family culture that is peaceful and happy. And despite this many families are struggling with knowing what to do - what works and what doesn't. 

In this session we offer a research based blueprint on what makes families happy. Some of the information is sure to surprise you. 

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Mental illness affects the whole family and yet many family members are completely unprepared for dealing with the effects on the family and often do not know how to best support their loved ones through this challenge.

In this session, we offer basic guidance on recognizing mental illness, what to do and how to recognize the limits of your abilities. 

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It is said that happy families look a lot like each other whereas those that are unhappy are each unhappy in their own way. In this episode we talk about intentionally strengthening our families. This begins by recognizing what characteristics families have that makes them healthy and strong.